Learn to say “I don’t know “. What’s wrong with that?
I do not know carries a tremendous possibility. The moment you destroy “I do not know ” you destroy all possibilities of knowing. The very longing to know you destroy. Confusion is better than false conclusions. In confusion, there is still a possibility. In false conclusion, there is no possibility.”
Don’t talk about anything that is not in your experience.
Many people are comfortable pretending to be what they actually are not without remorse. The poor person brags about the wealth he has no experience about. A single person speaks about love and marriage as if they have seen it all. People talk about God, about spirit, about soul, about devils and sinister forces but have that really seen and experienced these things.
Until you’ve experienced it for yourself just keep an open mind and don’t believe and don’t disbelieve. Don’t take the word for it, or believe anything or anyone else says. Just admit “I don’t know “. What’s wrong with that? The reason not to encourage anyone to talk about things that are not yet experienced is that they create delusions about these things.
See it the way it is, and deal with it the way it is.
If you want to cross the street, you don’t need to think positive thoughts or start chanting to avoid the cars and prevent yourself from getting hit. All you need to do is see clearly and look where you’re going. It’s the same with anything: If you want to succeed, you simply need to see things the way they are and deal with them as they are, and not how they could, should or might be. This also applies to people: Instead of looking for their strengths or weaknesses, good points or bad points, just see them as they are and deal with them as they are, and not how they could, should or might be.
Look at what binds you.
If you want freedom, don’t think about freedom, only look at what binds you. Understand your bondage.
What is holding you back? What is stopping you? Is it an addiction? A bad habit? A fear? A limiting belief? Your comfort zone?
Fix yourself don’t try to fix anyone else.
The problem with the world today is that everyone wants everyone else to change, but no one wants to change themselves. But the problem is that you can’t change anyone else. You can’t change your parents, your children, your male friend, your female friend, your husband, your wife, your family, your friends.
You can’t change anyone. If you could’ve, you would’ve. But you can’t just like they can’t change you. The only person you can change is you.
Act consciously not compulsively.
Most people are unconscious creators. Everything they do is unconscious. They walk, talk and act unconsciously. They speak without thinking and act without reflecting. But if you want to change your life for the better – start acting consciously, not compulsively. Act consciously. Dress consciously. Eat consciously. Talk consciously. Walk consciously. Don’t just live your life unconsciously on autopilot like most people, doing the same things day after day without thinking about it. Actually think about what you’re doing and why.
Don’t take your mind too seriously.
Most people take their thoughts so seriously, believing every thought that passes through their heads, as if their thoughts represented the undeniable and irrefutable truth of the matter. But guess what: Thoughts aren’t facts. What you think isn’t what is.
Thoughts are just thoughts. Just because you have a thought that doesn’t mean it’s true. How many completely random thoughts do you have that have nothing to do with anything? The average person has over 50, 000 thoughts per day. Do you think you have 50, 000 true thoughts a day?
Do yourself a favour: Learn to watch your mind without taking it too seriously. Don’t believe every thought that passes through your head. Watch your thoughts without believing them. See them as clouds in the sky or waves in the ocean, quickly come and quickly gone.